Whether it’s in person, over the phone, or by text, talking dirty is one thing that can make people feel uncomfortable but is often really effective once you get the hang of it.
Like most things, practice makes perfect, and if it’s something that you want to try out then you’ll find that it gets far easier and much more fun the more that you do it.
If you feel like you need a bit of help gaining confidence in this area, try out our top tips for talking dirty and we are sure that you and your partner will be enjoying it in no time.
Pick your words
Everyone has different words which turn them on more than others, so it is important to learn which ones your partner likes to use and which ones you feel comfortable saying.
It could be that these words are then used in sentences, or that they are simply single words to be said on their own, such as ‘harder’ or ‘faster’, but having them on the tip of your tongue beforehand will mean that you won’t be lost for words.
You probably don’t have to put as much thought into talking dirty as you think you do, in fact you might find that it happens quite naturally once you know that all you need to do is be descriptive.
By simply describing how you’re feeling, what is turning you on, and what you want to happen next you’ll be giving your partner plenty of arousing thoughts to occupy them.
It is also effective to describe what you are going to do just before you do it to heighten excitement and create anticipation.
Share your fantasies
If you can’t think of anything to say about the moment itself, then why not talk about your fantasies or a sexy situation that you have enjoyed in the past?
Both of these topics are going to be arousing for you, so they will have the same effect on your partner too as you get excited while talking about them. It may even be worth practicing talking about these in advance so that you know exactly what to say when the moment comes.
A great way to get used to talking about sex with your partner is to read erotica to each other. Not only will this help you to feel more comfortable with certain words and describing sexual situations, but it might give you both some ideas of other things that you could be trying out.
When you feel happy with reading erotica, you could try writing your own to make the stories a bit more personal, and take a step towards being able to make up your dirty talk on the spot.
By following these top tips for talking dirty you’ll be feeling confident enough to speak your sexy thoughts in no time.